Being truthful and upfront in a relationship are very important pieces to making it successful. Keeping secrets from each other is toxic, but it’s key to keep some things between the two of you.
There’s a very thin line between privacy and secrecy. It’s a line that is essential to maintain a successful relationship.
When you’re part of a happy couple, you’re generally an excited person. You’re in love, you want to tell the world and you don’t care who knows it. That’s understandable.
However, blabbing about your relationship to others can be tricky. You don’t want to be secretive, but you also don’t need to discuss certain aspects of your love life with everyone.
It’s normal to discuss the relationship, especially with your friends, but there’s a limit. Relationships typically consist of two people and adding anyone extra to it can be problematic.
Making your relationship a public affair can lead to a bunch of misunderstandings. Plus, nobody wants their business as a couple to be a social topic among others.
This list covers a select few things you should keep secret in a relationship. These are things you don’t need to tell anyone else if you want to maintain happiness together.
1. Your partner’s flaws:
We all know that nobody is perfect. Yet when you’re exposed to your partner’s flaws, some people have a tendency to discuss it with their friends. It paints your partner in a negative light, which should never be the goal.
Your partner will get on your nerves. It’s just that simple. It will cause arguments and rifts, but some are small enough to get over. If you go on and tell others about it, that can make everything worse.
Don’t discuss your partner’s weaknesses with someone else. Everyone has demons and baggage and it’s what makes them unique. You should calm them down, make them better, and don’t put the issues out in public.
2. Your fights:
Similar to flaws, this should not be discussed with outsiders. It’s understandable for you to go to a close friend for advice and things like that, but too much detail is a problem.
Now, if the fights are leading to physical or mental abuse then you shouldn’t hesitate to be open about that. If it’s not that serious then keep it quiet. Not everyone needs to know the business that goes on between you and your partner.
No good can come of it. Every story has your side, the other person’s, and the truth usually falls in the middle. When you tell others, that truth can get lost and everyone involved gets hurt. Your mutual friends will see the petty issues and that can cause problems within the friendship as well as the relationship.
3. Anything related to your love life:
The things you do in the bedroom with your partner shouldn’t be public knowledge. You can discuss it with a relationship counselor or your gynecologist, but other third parties shouldn’t be privy to this information.
Intimacy should be kept private. Regardless of how big or small the piece of information is, it’s unfair to the other person for you to openly talk about it.
Problems, fantasies, and everything relating to the bedroom is not to be shared. When you do you break trust and this can cause fights. Don’t let anger send you to do something you’ll regret.